Solitaire ring

I was going to talk about something, but as the day passed, my mood changed and now there's this thing that I really, need and definitely have to get out of my system. Sipping my coke in a fancy glass from "النيش", and listening to "Summertime - Sidney Bechet". A past encounter that happened a couple of weeks ago, only tonight I had thought of it.

يا ارم اسمعي لازم تسمعي - 

كنت خاطب يا جماعة فا كنت جايبلها بتاع ميت الف جنيه دهب قالتلي عايزة خاتم سوليتير قولت استنصح و اجيبلها نفس الديزاين بس مش البراند و هوفر بتاع كام الف كده فا المهم سيبنا بعض, راحت تبيع الخاتم في المحل اللي بجد "اصلها كانت فكراه اصلي, و بعدين راح المحل قفل عليها قالولها انتي حرامية و كانت هيطلبوا البوليس هاهاهاهاهاااا و اصلا بنت ال كانت بتخوني ايه ديه بنت ال هاهاهاهاهااا.

That guy who was talking, I never really quite liked him and I was definitely trying to avoid any conversations or even eye contact with him, he just always gave me the ick.  

ارم مش بتقفي معانا ليه يا ارم -  

 سوري والله اصل مش بدخن و الدخان ده بيتعبني - 

I don't really know why I never liked him, whether it was his weird outfits, or how his laugh or his fucking jokes sounded so desperate and not even funny, or maybe that he was old and even purposeless, with no plan in mind and a very weird sense of humor, but who am I to judge you know?

As I was listening and tbh I couldn't care less about what the fuck he was talking about, what he said really stopped me and got me wondering? 

Why would she cheat on him? Okay, so let's think about it, even though it's not really our business, but hey, he was the one who decided to tell us, even though I didn't want to hear. 

So again, they were engaged, they were "in love" type ass shit. All rainbows and butterflies," I don't think so", but one thing, she didn't cheat because she thought he was weird, she didn't cheat because he was unfunny, she didn't cheat because he didn't get her the real thing, Then why?

She basically cheated just because she couldn't respect him enough, and no I'm not saying that she did the right thing, cheating and even micro cheating is a real deal breaker. "I'm not saying this to sound like someone that knows right from wrong, but simply this is what needs to be done", standards. 

Anyhow, after several analyzations, by me, my friends and analyzing different situations and different ass shit, I noticed that, you can never expect her to truly "be devoted, truly loyal" if she:

1. Doesn't respect you 

2. Doesn't fear you

3. Doesn't look up to you

4. Doesn't feel truly appreciated and you don't make her laugh (optional, not required)

Still very immersed in what I'm writing, a couple of songs passed that I didn't like, yet I couldn't bother to actually skip them "I really need to renew my Anghami subscription". But let me just pour another glass of coke and change this fuck ass song. 

One thing I think woman do, when they "stop respecting their men", notice that I didn't say love. They would simply stop giving him his, mm let me think of a word, I need to say this in Arabic.

"وضع".

And tbh we are in a lifetime where a woman is looking for someone nice, appreciative and hardworking, and men are looking not for a loving girl but for a respectful woman. And there's no way you'll attract a respecting woman, unless you become a respectful man yourself, with a purpose, a vision, and acts.

Once a real man, admiration isn't just built over "oh I like him", but built on "Respect", she'll even trust you, and it won't be nothing but a true connection, at that point, starting a relationship with a "high value woman", who knows what the fuck she's doing, what the fuck she's saying, with a "respectful man" who knows where he is heading with his life, and what he can offer or bring, that shit wouldn't be called a relationship, rather I'd like to call it a "high value- give and take" connection. Respect and trust would come naturally without having to say "Oh, I'm in a relationship so yes, I NEED, to do this and act that way", Rather it would be an act of love, straight out of true admiration.  An Act not a Task

Then, simply you can say that, laughing your ass off with that person, or even crying like a baby in their arms, or telling them how badly you love them, and how you wanna freak them out, won't make you "less of a man", and no it won't make you sound like "a desperate lady". 

But again, who am I to judge I'm only a 19 year old girl, who heard a story she didn't really care about. And shit like that, that's said by people who you don't really give a fuck about, show your some real ass life lessons that you "need" to give a fuck about. 

"الرحمة من عندك يا رب"